LONDON AND SEX - NOT INTENDED FOR SEXUAL AROUSAL
(If you are after sex please go straight somewhere else)
Although the word
"massage" has been used as a convenient cover-up for
illicit sex, Massage Therapy - as a health profession - is never
intended to provide a sexual experience any more than a
gynecological examination, a prostate examination, or a discussion
of sexuality between patient and sex therapist is intended to lead
to sexual involvement between client and therapist.
And while sexuality
is an important aspect of the human experience - something that
should be widely researched and responsibly discussed around the
world - the boundaries of sex and sexuality lie outside the realm of
any professional-quality massage practice.
Mistakenly and so
sadly, consumers of illicit sex are often led to believe that
massage therapists are only happy to put up with the sex needs of
their clients. Most massage therapists, however, couldn't be further
from practicing massage with some kind of an underlying sexual
Caring, creative individuals, typically with a liberal arts
background, they bring an active interest in natural health and
humanity to the profession.
Fortunately, for the growing number of people who now routinely make
massage appointments for rehab as well as for stress-reduction and
prevention - such ethical boundaries are self-evident.
Even (or especially)
when massage is indicated for the treatment of a sexual problem or
for recovery from sexual trauma, the professional boundaries remain
clear and unequivocal.
Massage Therapy is
not intended for sexual arousal whatsoever. While massage involves
the manipulation of soft tissue, it does not involve the client's or
patient's private parts. Private body parts should be covered by a
sheet, a towel, or by the client's clothes at all times.
Indeed, most people
understand that they cannot act on a sexual urge regardless of the
circumstances under which such urge occurs. If you've read nothing
else on this website, please be aware that sexual behaviour between
client and massage therapist - physical, or even verbal, or even by
gestures only - is unacceptable.
Regardless of who initiates it, when sexual behaviour occurs - even
if consensual - a clear breach of the professional ethical code
occurs. A professional relationship no longer exists. And when
sexual behaviour is imposed on either massage therapist or client - a
potentially damaging violation of personal boundaries and
psychological autonomy has occurred.
Mental health experts
agree that, in general, an individual who feels compelled to break
work-related boundaries is likely to come with the emotional baggage
of low-self esteem and control problems. And understanding such
emotional problems doesn't make an inappropriate sexual behaviour
Whether during the
massage session or even just via phone inquiries,
professional-quality massage therapists - like other health
professionals - have every right to work without the nuisance and
abuse of the misguided sexual intentions of perpetrating,
In case of inappropriate behaviour session will be ended and full
payment will be expected